The Pleasure Gap

Stories: stats from this article relating to YouGov report

Breaking those results down by gender, we find that six in ten men (59%) and half of women (45%) could not even label the vagina. Slightly more didn’t know what the urethra was (61% of men and 55% of women). Around half of both genders failed to label the labia (52% of men and 43% of women).

Post: Why do we have a pleasure gap?

Pleasure Gap definition: The orgasm gap, or pleasure gap, is a social phenomenon referring to the general disparity between heterosexual men and women in terms of sexual satisfaction—more specifically, the unequal frequency in achievement of orgasm during sexual encounters.

Did you know studies have found that 39% of women regularly orgasm during sex, this is compared to 91% of men who reach orgasm. Women also reported less satisfaction and pleasure from sexual activity. Durex also found that 3 out of 4 women said they can’t achieve orgasm during sex. However 30% of men said they thought the best way to help a woman orgasm was through penetration when actually over half of women said that they needed clitoral stimulation in order to achieve climax.

So how has this happened and why do men believe penetration is key for a woman to reach orgasm? Up until now it's been a total lack of conversation, lack of education and correct information being shared. Female genital anatomy and masturbation still remains a taboo and there are some serious conversations still to be had. Studies found that hetrosexual women are the demographic who have the least amount of orgasms during sex and it mainly comes down to pure lack of understanding. These stats don’t just exist between heterosexual women and men, it also includes lesbian and bisexual women who have significantly more orgasms. There is also a gap between women who are with their partner and women when they are alone pleasuring themselves. Studies found that 39% of women said they always orgasm when they masturbate compare to 6% during sex. 

New YouGov research revealed a widespread lack of anatomical knowledge about female genitalia among both genders as the clitoris the only part the majority could identify. It showed that Britons are worryingly uniformed about female genitalia, and that women were almost as unaware as men about what was going on below. The results showed that six in ten men (59%) and half of women (45%) could not label the vagina. Around half of both genders failed to label the labia (52% of men and 43% of women.) These findings shows us that a lack of understanding of the female anatomy can dramatically affect our sex lives. If we knew our bodies better we could empower and guide our partners around it increasing our pleasure as well as our confidence.

Does it even matter?

It’s important to state that the orgasm itself is not the only way to measure your pleasure and happiness during sex and its certainly not a fail if you don’t orgasm or have trouble orgasming. It’s just important to ask ourselves these questions why women are generally more unsatisfied in their sex lives than men. 

Everyone is unique

When it comes to what makes us tick it’s diverse, there is no one answer however an overall trend report that women need more clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm. Introducing the Eva II from Dame which is here to challenge the pleasure gap with its revolutionary design of tucking it’s wings comfortably under the labia while the Eva II sits on top of the clitoris delivering orgasm inducing stimulation.